Review: The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck – A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

Two weeks ago, I started reading a book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. The writing was entertaining and funny it was difficult to put down. I especially like Mark’s pure honesty about the things he observed about what our society has become and how not everything we see from others should be emulated.  In the book he gives an insight about how we should think on our own feet and to choose carefully. To understand that we shouldn’t overwhelm ourselves with what society is dictating but to tune inwards and determine what’s right for us.

I thought I would learn a lot from this book. Some I’ve already put in practice. Some are completely new. Here’s a few lines from the book that I like most:

  1. Happiness is not a solvable equation. Dissatisfaction and unease are inherent parts of human nature, and, as we’ll see, necessary components to creating consistent happiness.
  2. What pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.
  3. The rare people who do become truly exceptional at something do so not because they believe they’re exceptional. On the contrary, they become amazing because they’re obsessed with improvement.
  4. Good values are: reality based, socially constructive, immediate and controllable. Bad values are: superstitious, socially destructive, not immediate or controllable.
  5. Prioritizing better values, choosing better things to give a f*ck about. Because when you give better f*cks, you get better problems, And when you get better problems, you get a better life.
  6. We shouldn’t seek to find the ultimate “right” answer for ourselves, but rather, we should seek to chip away at the ways that we’re wrong today so that we can be a little less wrong tomorrow.
  7. The openness to being wrong must exist for any real change or growth to take place.
  8. Unhealthy love is based on two people trying to escape their problems through their emotions for each other – in other words, they’re using each other as an escape. Healthy love is based on two people acknowledging and addressing their own problems with each other’s support.
  9. Our struggles define our successes. Our problems birth our happiness, along with slightly better, slightly upgraded problems.
  10. Depth is where the gold is buried. And you have to stay committed to something and go deep to dig it up. That’s true in relationships, in a career, in building a great lifestyle – in everything.

The book was cheeky and sensible. I thoroughly enjoyed it. Now.. What next? Any recommendations?

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